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Qualities That Qualify

A while back one of my best friends advised me to sit and really think about, and write down, what qualities I value in people, and what I find attractive. I resisted at first, but she said to me "You should do this so that you'll have clarity on what's really important to you, and what you feel makes a person a positive healthy connection – so that when you meet someone who aligns with your values you'll recognize them." So I did. Here's my list of #QualitiesThatQualify Integrity, intelligence, wisdom, humility, kindness, compassion, trustworthiness, authenticity, strength in the face of adversity, the courage to be vulnerable, curiosity, drive to accomplish their dreams, willingness to do the work of becoming the best version of themselves they can be, a love of learning, a desire to serve and give back, passion for what truly matters to them, self mastery, strong ethics, a person who reads and pursues knowledge, is interested in science, philosophy, history, and can sustain thought provoking conversation. Depth. An open mind, an ability to listen for understanding the other person. Spiritual awareness – in any form that helps them grow and feel connection to the world around them and to themselves. A man who lives his life standing on his own two feet, with a smile and confidence, facing a Universe that can crush him in a million ways. Personal power. I don't care how beautiful the packaging is, if there's an empty box inside. But a person with those qualities is Gorgeous, no matter what they look like. #Values #SelfWorth #SelfLove #relationshipgoals

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Unconditional Love is not…

Unconditional Love does Not mean Unconditional Relationship.

Unconditional Love does Not mean having no boundaries.

Unconditional Love does Not mean being a doormat.

Unconditional Love does Not mean denying my own Needs and fulfillment to meet the needs of others.

Unconditional Love does Not mean tolerating being used, being abused, being neglected or taken for granted.

Unconditional Love does Not mean letting the other person treat you like a pizza, only taking the slices they want and picking off the toppings.

Unconditional Love is Not a drive-thru menu of a la carte pieces of me or my heart.

Unconditional Love can be given from a safe distance with healthy boundaries that protect my well being and spirit from mistreatment.

I can Love you unconditionally from my spirit and wish you health and happiness… And still have healthy conditions and boundaries around how I’m willing to relate to you.

Unconditional Love does Not mean sacrificing myself and my well-being for yours. Sometimes I will choose to do so when your need is greater and/or more immediate.

Unconditional Love does Not mean I have given up my right to say No to what is not good for me.

~ Aurora WindDancer

“The root word “condition” in “unconditional love” does not apply to the verb “to love,” but to the subject of the sentence, “you.” This means I will love you, no matter what condition you are in. It does not mean I will love you under any conditions, even if you are breaking my boundaries.” ~ Sienna Newcastle